5 Signs You Bore Her in Bed

News flash: The passion will fade with time—no matter how eagerly she jumped in the sack when you first started dating. But less urgency doesn’t have to translate to all-out boredom in bed.

After you’ve been together a while, you don’t feel I-want-to-rip-your-clothes-off lust, but you still want the person.
Boredom is more of an aversive state—like, I'm not really feeling this at all.'"
So how can you tell when your girlfriend has drifted into “I could care less about sex” territory? Watch for these five signs—some subtle, others glaring —that she’s checked out in the sack, and learn how to reengage her before your sexual deficit carries over to the rest of your relationship.
1. She regularly goes to bed at a different time than you.
Maybe she really doesn’t want to watch House of Cards with you. But there's a more likely reason for her early bedtime: she’s aiming to avoid intimacy.
She is trying not to be in bed at the same time [as you].
Women talk about doing this on purpose.” (Conversely, some women may linger in the living room until you’ve dozed off, with a similar goal of deflecting your come-ons.)
Pique her interest:
When women are losing interest, men really need to have good seduction skills to lure them in.
Bluntly asking, “Wanna have sex?” isn’t an acceptable entrée to intimacy.
2. She wants to stick with one position during sex.
An especially bad sign: She favors the move that she knows gets you off fastest.
She wants it to be over. If she’s like, ‘Let’s not switch things up—let’s just do this and get done,’ she’s not interested in feeling more pleasure. It’s totally obligatory, going through the motions.”
Pique her interest:
If you’re running a one-position show, try adding an extra element of pleasure for her: Break out the vibrator, and stimulate her
clitoris while you're thrusting Hopefully, once she’s reminded how awesome her O feels—and even the pleasure leading up to it— she’ll reengage in the experience.

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Or even better, guide her into a new position entirely—ideally, one that requires standing.
standing sex forces your nervous system to work a little bit harder—and that means she can’t drift off into that detached, halfway asleep state during sex.
3. When you offer to get her off, she declines.
It’s one thing to decline giving you a B.J., since that can be a lot of work. But to refuse her own pleasure? That’s a bad sign, buddy.
Having an orgasm— and the process it takes to get there—can be very sensual, relaxing, and
connecting. If she doesn’t value those things—and would rather just sleep—your connection may no longer be strong enough to entice her into bed.
Pique her interest:
She may sense that you’re offering an orgasm for your own personal ego boost—not because you really want to give her pleasure. So before giving up, let her know you’re all about her.dont just focus on making you feel good?
4. She asks, “Did you finish?” before you actually did.
Translation: “You’re lasting too long—let’s wrap things up!” “A lot of guys think women want sex to last a long time—like 30 minutes or more.

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But, the truth is, most women are totally cool with a 10-minute session; any longer, and they may start to lose their lubrication, which is just uncomfortable. Half an hour may seem especially long to a woman who can’t climax during intercourse.
Pique her interest:
The bad news: These three little words can put immense performance pressure on you, making it even harder to climax on demand. If you’re nowhere close to finishing, work on drawing her attention. Caress her face, and make intimate eye contact with her. Connection is a huge turn-on
for women.
5. She doesn’t want to strip down completely during sex.
Sometimes, it’s erotic to keep an article of clothing on—but apart from a rushed-and-raunchy quickie, a refusal to get totally nude can be a sign she’s not really interested in connecting with you. (One caveat: If this is a consistent issue, she may just be body-conscious. It’s when she suddenly
starts keeping her top on that you have to worry about boredom.)

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And it can even be a bit hostile, like, ‘You just want to f*ck me, I’m not going to take everything off, here you go.
Pique her interest:
Guide her through a sexy striptease: Tell her to slowly take off her shirt—or just seductively ask her to show you her body—then tell her how much you love seeing her breasts.
Use your words to be sort of commanding, but also pleasing—like Do this, oh that’s nice, now do this. When women feel desired, it incites their desire a little bit more.
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