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The only thing that hurts more than a hangover is realization that you’ve just slept with a friend and you now to have to deal with the giant sex-elephant in the room.

Check out the guide below to proceed as best as you can:

The morning after the night before

Accept it and acknowledge it. I’m all about weaseling my out of situations and am not opposed to climbing out of the window and repressing a memory or two, but unfortunately, this isn’t just a stranger who will go down in your personal history as a funny story.You have each other’s numbers; you’re Facebook friends; you’re actual friends andyou will almost definitely see each other again.

So, address the situation immediately and acknowledge that you were mentally present when it all went down. Casually mention that last night was fun and do a thumbs-up (everyone loves a visual aide).Depending on how you feel, you’ll either need to head into friend-zone mode… or reserve a wedding reception venue.

Setting the “we” or “me” tone

After awkward pleasantries and acknowledgement of the past night, you’ll need to establish the direction of the day. Because, believe it or not, how the next few hours progress will mean something.If you’re in love, clear your schedule and conjoin your bank accounts.

If, however, you’re not so taken with the previous night,you’ll need to set the tone — quickly.Begin by casually mentioning the many errands you need to run during the day; don’t be a jerk about it, but do be firm withyour wording.“Me” and “I” are your friends, while“we” will lead to an afternoon of walking through the park with juice and scones.

Again, depending on your feelings, you’ll either want to announce the news to the world or lock it deep away in the vault of your past. If it’s the latter, a verbal agreement of “let’s just keep this to ourselves” is enough.Mutual friends are great when you’re dating, but in situations like these, they will likely make things worse.

Re-establishing the friendship dynamic

In the days and weeks following the sex, it’s important to reinforce the friend zone by doing your best to revert back to your pre-sex dynamic.He’ll get the picture — so long as you’re notsimultaneously inviting him to attend weddings with you or asking for his opinionon which bra to buy via picture message.

Most likely, the dynamic will quickly settle if you’re not too weird about it, and even if you are feeling weird, fake it until you make it.However, if things got a little heavy and you said a bit too much, or you got drunk and transformed into the obnoxiously loud girl who smokes the wrong end of a cigarette, it might be time for a friendship hiatus.

Switch into damage-control mode and scale back your friendship until you feel more in control of the situation or you’ve ignored enough of his messages in a row for him to get the hint.

Testing the waters

After the enforced cool-off period, it’s time to come out from hiding and make contact (just not the full-body type). Since you’re friends, you’ll undoubtedly be seeing each other sooner rather than later, so when that moment comes, you need to approachit head on.

If you’re lucky, he’ll have since had a whirlwind romance with a girl who reachedfor the same orange at the supermarket, and all of the work will be done for you.He’s over it, you’re over it and everyone can move on.

However, if you’re both still available and there’s a distinct sense of longing and desire in his eyes, you need to ease yourself back into the role of unavailable friend. Affection of any type is off the table.In “When Harry Met Sally,” Billy Crystal says that men and women can’t be just friends “because the sex part always gets in the way.” That much is true, especially if you have sex.Sex is to friendships as icebergs are to ships, but if dealt with correctly, your friendship might live to tell the tale.

Confine your relationship to platonic, preferably sober environments, and if that’s not doable, just learn to recognize the point at which your better judgemnt took a mini vacation.After all that, if it happens again, you’ll either need a reality check or a better game plan. Only God and Oprah can help you now.

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Why Men Claim to Want low Maintenance Women, but Drool and Lust Over The High Maintenance ones! Read Post

Why Men Claim to Want low Maintenance Women, but Drool and Lust Over The High Maintenance ones!

Low maintenance is a term, believe it or not, once only associated with a mechanics garage. Cars that barely need tuneups, require little for spare parts and run for years without engine replacements are considered “low maintenance.”
They are the ideal car for the new buyer, the old seller and the guy who is just trying to keep his expenses down and get from place to place.

High maintenance cars are many times warned against, as they are expensive to upkeep, their parts must be imported, and the mileage is never worth the price of gas.
They are a depreciating asset from the moment you drive them off the lot, their presence only causing you stress and anxiety at every road bump and pot hole. But hell, they look damn good.
And they should. All the money spent on their exterior, the imported parts and unnecessary frills have the ability to attract even the most sensible of buyers.

They give so many men what they are longing for: validation. Their emblem, their name, their imported Italian leather seats.
Within months of driving, however, the smooth ride is no longer admired, the glossy exterior no longer delighted in and the frills and gadgets no longer marveled at. Like with most things, most drivers begin wanting something more, something new.
Now that it’s maintenance is higher than your mortgage, all you can worry about is the fading paint, the rising price of oil and how much it’s going to cost you to repair that scratch.
Parking spots become graveyards and long drives become dreaded, as you begin to wonder why you cared so much about this car to begin with.

Let me say this, women aren’t cars. They’re not objects; they’re not things to be bought and sold, by men or anyone else.
Yet the dichotomy that once defined the motor industry,seems to prove analogous to relationships that require too much upkeep and never win out at the end.

So why, may I ask, if men are so obsessed with idea of the low maintenance girl, are they marrying all the high maintenance ones?
Why are they going for Bentleys and Porsches when they can’t afford them and know that a Ford will run the way they need it and get them where they need to go without all the extra costs?
Low maintenance women, like the classic American cars people say they miss, are still around. They are sturdy, dependable and have only gotten better over time. They are there for you in the good, bad and when you’re all but just about broke.

However, no one is buying them. Everyone is distracted with the flashy ads on the billboards and hot models in front of shiny metal grills, not realizing these extra cup holders and heated seats are never going to bring them that happiness they are so desperately seeking.
Unfortunately, in the capitalist society we thrive in, sometimes the best products get lost in the frenzy of commercialization. The basic products that do the job better than the ones with all the frills and added costs are drowned beneath a layer of neon paint and pretty packaging.

Like expensive cars, low maintenance women just can’t compete. Or rather, they don’t care enough to compete. They know who they are, they are comfortable with themselves and they refuse to go chasing buyers and sellers. They stay on the road, in their lane, happy to be moving along.
They won’t give in to the fads or trends. Won’t slip into tight dresses and heels to try to look like the models selling the Porsches.
They won’t spend nights in the clubs or on yachts. They aren’t looking for men to empty their pockets and invest in their drama. They are out there being real, being chill and, unfortunately, being left all alone.

Flashy gadgets always distract from wholesome values

A big rack will always distract from a winning personality… at least in the beginning. While we’d all like to believe that personality is what keeps a man, it’s the frills, shiny coats of paint and large engines that initially attract them.
If women were like cars, a low maintenance woman would be one with a solid engine and good gas mileage, while the high maintenance would be the inappropriate Hummer or Escalade that requires two parking spaces, incessant gas trips and disapproving stares from your eco-friendly neighbors.
Unfortunately, it’s too late when the buyer finally realizes that he’s just bought a car that’s only going to cause him more than he can afford and the low maintenance ones are left on the lot.

People associate price with quality

For years, people have assumed that expensive cars were good cars. While many times they
would be right, they are forgetting about all those mid-range cars that run just as well and last you just as long.
Just because a Bentley costs a couple hundred thousand doesn’t mean it’s the right car for you. Just because it has a good name and popular reputation doesn’t mean it’s going to bring you happiness.
High maintenance women, like Bentleys and Aston Martins, aren’t always worth their price. Sometimes the nagging, complaining and demanding isn’t worth the status that comes with owning such an expensive car.
It’s usually only after you’ve realized how much money you’re continually spending that you understand that price doesn’t always ensure quality.

You can’t get down and dirty with a Bentley

Expensive cars, like high maintenance women, are nice to show off and look at, but it rarely goes deeper than that.
You’re so busy taking care of them that you can never do the things you really want to do with them. You can’t take them spontaneously off-roading or across unpaved terrain. You can’t get them dirty.
Low maintenance women are the ones who can take more than a few potholes. They don’t cry when their hair gets messed up or freak out because it’s raining. They don’t need 40 minutes to get ready for a 20 minute car ride or require heated seats in the winter.
They are sturdy, dependable and always able to take a few bumps in the road. They are the women who will be there in 20 years, 30 years, still running smoothly.

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35 things you must agree upon before getting married Read Post

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35 things you must agree upon before getting married

Come on, ladies and gentlemen! It's time to settle the debates a couple absolutely must have
before the wedding:

1. Does the toilet paper go over or under the roll?

2. Cats? Dogs? Both?

3. Can you eat breakfast for dinner?

4. Cold pizza: yes or no?

5. Is it acceptable to open presents as they arrive or do you have to wait for the actual birthday or holiday?

6. Should the dirty forks and knives go in the dishwasher with the handle sticking out of the utensil tray or down in the utensil tray?

7. Is it acceptable to leave dishes in the sink to "soak" overnight, or do they need to be cleaned before bed?

8. Toothpaste: cap on or cap off?

9. Again on the toothpaste: roll it from the bottom or just squeeze really hard?

10. Are towels a one-time use item or do you use the same towel until laundry day?

11. How about washcloths?

12. Road trip or flying?

13. What's the right thread count for sheets?

14. What brand of toilet paper?

15. Mayo or Miracle Whip?

16. Pepsi or Coke?

17. Can you eat the holiday candy out in the display bowl or must it be left there for display?

18. What is YOUR definition of camping?

19. Turn the thermostat down when you go out or leave it alone?

20. At what point is a garbage bag too full to stuff more trash in it?

21. How many times is it acceptable to hit the snooze button?

22. Thrift store shopping: great deals or gross?

23. How far in advance is it OK to plan a vacation?

24. Restaurant reservations: necessary or too restrictive?

25. Roller coasters: love 'em or hate 'em?

26. More chocolate chips, less cookie or more cookie, less chips?

27. How much orange juice must be left in the container for it to be returned to the fridge?

28. Chip clips or just roll the bag up?

29. Call the doctor or just take some medicine at home?

30. Where is the prime location for the TV remote to stay?

31. Is it OK to have a TV in the bedroom?

32. Should folded clothes be put away, or is it OK to just pull as needed from the basket of
clean laundry?

33. Do you need to write a grocery list or just wait until you're walking around the store to figure out what you need?

34. Making the bed: must-do or waste of time because you're just going to get back in it?

35. Is it OK to shave/clip toenails in the living room?

See? So many issues, so little time to get them straightened out before you're grumbling about
that dishwasher.

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10 Reasons Girls Will Aways Fall For The Funny Guy Every Time Read Post

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10 Reasons Girls Will Aways Fall For The Funny Guy Every Time

Why is it when girls are asked what qualities they look for in a guy, most say a sense of humor?
There’s just something about a guy who makes you giggle like a little schoolgirl, and there’s a reason Seth Rogen never fails to steal our hearts in every movie.
Funny guys have a charm and electricity about them that is hard to deny. Below are the real reasons why the silly man will always have you hooked:

1. He never fails to entertain you.

Dating a guy with a good sense of humor never gets boring. He is spontaneous and will pull almost any stunt for a laugh. It makes things exciting because you have to be quick to keep up with him.

2. To be funny, a guy must be witty and creative: plus and plus!

If you ask any writer what the most difficult genre to write for is, he or she will most likely say comedy. Sure, anyone can tell a good ol’ fashion fart joke, but it takes a certain type of a genius to nail a punchline that will make you laugh until your belly hurts.
To be on his game, he must be quick on his feet and original. If your guy is truly funny, he probably has a vast knowledge of peculiar facts and an arsenal of voices to share them in.

3. He knows how to handle social situations.

Nothing eases up an awkward moment better than a good-hearted joke. He has made enough inappropriate wisecracks to know when the time is right to tease and when it is better to keep his mouth shut.
You no longer have to cringe about leaving your guy in a room alone with others. Part of being funny is knowing where everyone else is coming from. Building off others, he can find something in common that they can all chat or even chuckle about.

4. He is naturally very observant.

How is he going to poke fun at your “Hunger Games” poster unless he’s taken a moment to observe your room?
The reason comedians are so good at what they do is attributed to their keen sense of what’s going on around them and ability to find the absurdness in it. A good way to one-up his witty remarks is to thank him for noticing.

5. He makes you a better person.

You stressed out too much before he entered the picture; now he teaches you to laugh at life and yourself.
Your safety wall melts away when he is around, and when he makes a fool out of himself, you feel more comfortable to do the same. What is a sweeter love when you can both truly be yourself around each other?

6. He gets along with your friends.

He goes out of his way to impress your friends and show them a good time. He feels the need to perform and does not mind taking the stage.
Your friends like him because he is the life of the party. Whether it’s wacky impressions or dry sarcasm, they find him a riot and like seeing you so smitten.

7. He doesn’t feed into drama.

Goofy guys usually do not let their temper get the best of them. He tends not to take life too seriously or any dramatic person for that matter.
If there is another funny friend in the group, he sees it as a faceoff. They are more likely to exchange punchlines instead of punches, making it even more fun for everyone else.

8. He radiates confidence.

It takes a secure guy to poke fun at himself for your amusement. Even if he does not act super confident in front of everyone, it is obvious when you two are together.
Maybe it is something about having you on his arm, but anytime you are together, there is a chip on his shoulder that you find charming, yet playfully challenging. Just keep it light and avoid a low blow because underneath every funny guy is an emotional one.

9. Pranksters are secretly sensitive.

Let’s face it: The class clown was never the smartest guy in class or the biggest jock in high school. He made others laugh to get by and was easily able to hide his emotions behind his jokes.
Unlike so many guys who seem one-dimensional, funny guys have a beautiful complex to them. When they are comfortable enough to reveal their sensitive side to us, it is a special and intimate feeling.

10. Most importantly, he never fails to bring a smile to your face.

It is impossible to stay upset for long with his cute little smirk in front of you. He knows exactly how to make you laugh through tears, and it’s both a blessing and a curse.
If you laugh at all his funny antics, you probably have a crush. If you also laugh at his failed one-liners, you, my friend, are already in love.

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14 Signs You’re Bored With Your Relationship Read Post

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14 Signs You’re Bored With Your Relationship

1. You can’t remember the last time you two did something adventurous together. When was the last time you took a weekend away or tried something new together?

2. When you go out either alone or with friends you see better dating potentials everywhere.

3. You’re constantly reminiscing on better times or bringing up the past from when you two were first falling in love. Everything from before seems better than it is now and you wish you could get back to that time.

4. You’ve both let your daily schedules get the best of you. You come home at the same time, go to the same brunch spot every weekend, and keep the same schedule day in and day out. You’ve forgotten how to be spontaneous.

5. You have a gut feeling deep inside this person probably isn’t someone you’ll be with long term or you have a feeling you’re not in the right relationship. If you have to ask yourself if the relationship is right, chances are you already know the answer.

6. You miss being single and envy your single friends. It always seems like they’re having so much more fun without you.

7. The sex isn’t as great as it used to be. Either you or your partner don’t seem to find any interest in spicing it up at the moment and you’re not sure if you even really care anymore to try and put in more effort.

8. You don’t feel bad about canceling dates and sort of feel relieved when they get too busy to spend time with you.

9. You avoid talking about the future. Whereas you once loved dreaming with them about the kind of city you might move to together or just talking about trips you’d like to go on in the next few months, you’re not really interested in making those kinds of tentative plans anymore.

10. You get into arguments for stupid reasons and find yourself becoming annoyed or irritated at minor things they say or do. You think maybe you’re just having a bad week or a bad day but no, pretty much everything about them can be found annoying now.

11. You don’t care about impressing them anymore. It’s not that you’ve given up, it’s just that putting in the extra effort to look more attractive around them just seems like a waste of time.

12. Your friends ask you about them and you don’t really have anything to say. You’re no longer enthused to talk about them or the things you’ve been doing together.

13. Things you once loved about them have now become huge liabilities. When you started dating their quirky traits were adorable but now you find them to be major personality flaws. You’ve even thought back to the first few months of dating and wondered how you didn’t catch those red flags.

14. You’ve started thinking more about what you might like to do if you weren’t attached. You think about finally taking that trip across Europe you wanted to do or a project you’d like to work on if you had more time. You start considering how many more things you could do if you didn’t have to worry about a relationship.

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10 Types Of Sex You’ll Experience In Your 20s Read Post

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10 Types Of Sex You’ll Experience In Your 20s

Sex is the new handshake. We’re thinking about it and having it as frequently as we shake hands during one of those job fairs or during my favorite time of the day, happy hour.
Since i was a teenager,whats apparent to me is that there are different types of sex, and below are the lessons I’ve learned about each type:

First-Time Sex

Masturbating and secretly watching porn hasn’t adequately prepared you, but you’re sure going to act like it. Losing your v-card is a defining moment in your life.
Make sure this is someone you care for, or risk having regrets about how naive you were later on in life.

It’s-Been-A-While Sex

Save your excuses! Missy Elliott once said, no one wants a “One Minute Man.” There is nothing more embarrassing than getting off within 10 strokes.
Don’t be lazy; pace yourself.
If you’re able to last and put it down, you’ll be the hot topic among your partner’s inner circle, which might even lead to a new hookup.

We-Met-Via-Social-Media Sex

What do apps like Tinder, Grindr, Twitter and Instagram all have in common? They make hooking up easy. You’re perhaps 140 characters away from your hottest bang.

see also: [Signs He is Just After Sex]

However, when the foundation of your relationship is purely sex, it won’t usually lead to anything romantically stable, so don’t get your hopes up.

No-One-Better-Find-Out Sex

This is that “WTF was I thinking?” moment when you’d rather die than have people find out about your lapse in judgment. Seconds after you’ve finished doing the deed, or even during, you realize you’re thrusting into someone significantly less attractive than your “high” standards would allow.
Hell, you’re even afraid that direct eye contact in public might blow your cover, so greetings are prohibited. However, despite kicking yourself, you may actually be okay with continuing this kind of escapade as long as it’s kept between you and your co-conspirator.

I-Spent-Money-On-Our-First-[Few]-Date(s) Sex

Dates are not cheap, so spending money on dinner is an investment on turning the thought of bringing your date home into a reality. If you’re not fooling around by your second date (okay, third), then you might have a problem.
Foolish and broke is the man who spends money and is placed in the friend zone; smart and wealthy is the man who earns his ROI.

Dream-Come-True Sex

Insert that exceptionally attractive coworker’s name here. You’ve been waiting for this moment, and you thought it would never happen, but it did and DAMN it was amazing!
You’ve earned that extra pep in your step, and you’re glowing the next few days as if you just won the lotto because, my friend, you just did! Don’t forget to count your blessings.

No-Strings-Attached Sex

With a regular, reliable hookup, you not only know what you’re getting, you also generally know what you’re NOT going to get — like a burning sensation when you pee two days later.

see also: [25 reasons to love sex]

But the tricky part about NSA is that someone usually ends up developing feelings. You’re forced to either end things or entertain the thought of going beyond being friends with benefits, so choose wisely.

“OMFG, This Is Boring!” Sex

You might as well roll over and die. You’ve been with the same person for a while now and he or she no longer sexually excites you.
You only do it because this person provides something other than sex in your life (stability perhaps).
Faking becomes routine and fantasizing about other people is religion. You’re physically there, but mentally, you’re 10 miles away. Closing your eyes is your savior, and cheating occurs at some point on this level.

“You Want to Try What?!” Sex

Leave the stunts to the paid professionals; there’s a difference between what you see in pornography and real life.
That reverse piledriver around-the-world Superman position sure looked great when you saw James Deen do it, but what amateur wants to end up spending the night in the emergency room?
That said, being open to things you thought you would never do might not only save your relationship, but also surprise you. How far are you willing to go?
This level is all about exploring and testing your limits.

This-is-Beyond Sex

If you’re lucky, you’ll experience this kind of sex once or twice in your life. It’s not sex and it’s not making love, either; it’s that rare combination of both, where you are 100 percent committed to giving your mind, body and soul to your partner.
It’s the kind of sex Beyoncé sings about in “Dance for You.” You submit, you control, you give, you take, you’re dominating and you’re vulnerable.

see also: [Science Says Men and Women Can't Be 'JUST' Friends]

You know those songs about making love all night long or going from midnight to dawn? Yeah you do. This is that level. Heck, you were probably conceived at this level. It’s pure, it’s raw and it’s simply magical.

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Why You Should Stay Off Your Man's Facebook If You Realy Love Him Read Post

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Why You Should Stay Off Your Man's Facebook If You Realy Love Him

Loose lips sink ships,
nothing is free in this world, ignorance is bliss and...Facebook ruins relationships.

The last piece of advice is definitely a new one, not used by your mother in her many years of guidance through a slew of clichéd phrases and wise words.

However, it will most likely become a common saying, a hybrid of the old advice from our mothers and the newfound wisdom of our
technological future, to something like, “First impressions are always wrong, but Facebook impressions can never be forgotten.”
We can all agree that no matter how much you think you like a person, the second you check out his digital profile, it can be make it or break it, all bets off and the common “What was I
thinking?” claim.

A girl can be falling madly in love with a guy until that fateful hour comes when she takes to the portal of online identity and begrudgingly
clicks on the photo of him taking a shirtless mirror pic. F*ck. No. No. No. No.
One shirtless mirror pic and our guard is up. In one click, our attraction has dipped to the
excitement level of a little kid who just dropped his ice cream cone on the sidewalk. We instantly write the guy off because now we know what he’s really like.

Many would argue that seeing a picture like this helps a woman; it helps her skip the five dates, two nights of bad sex and one too many thumbs up emojis to find out he’s a douchebag.
She knows right then and there that she can’t possibly go out with this guy because what sensible, self respecting woman would date a
man who takes mirror pics?

You may continue arguing that social media sites have helped the modern woman, alleviating her
from the games and the harsh reality of finding out who he really is too late.
But to this I must ask, doesn’t that take the fun out of it all? Isn’t life supposed to be about experiences and aren’t experiences all about all
those bad dates, wrong guys and brutal life lessons?

Aren’t we supposed to find out the hard way that he’s a douchebag? Aren’t we supposed to find out for ourselves what kind of guy he is? What if, just maybe, you were supposed to fall in love with a guy who takes mirror pics?
Because we all know that we’re not the easiest of critics. Rather than looking past his awkward profile picture, we save it, send it and lament over it with all our friends.

We tell each other that we couldn’t possibly date a guy with this
kind of online presence before we even get to know him at all.
We go out with him a second or third time, subconsciously judging him, already knocking him down. As we keep checking out his pictures, all we are really doing is checking off the chance of
a possible relationship.

A major problem with our generation of dating is that there are too many things that can ruin a
good image, which, in turn, ruins a good man.

One bad photo, one weird tweet, one sexually ambiguous Instagram post and it’s all you can associate him with.
He’s no longer Joe, Brad, Will or Teddy, but “selfie guy,” “mirror pic guy” and “too many Instagram pics guy.”

Their most defining qualities are no longer their great sense of
humor or their kindness, but how well they take a picture.
We no longer see their charming side, but their bad side, their awkward side and the side that
posts on way too many girls’ walls.
It’s the side that shouldn’t come out until the fifth or sixth date, when you finally notice him checking out other women at dinner, or when he doesn’t shut up about himself.

However, by checking right away, you refuse to give him any time to prove himself with other redeeming qualities — qualities that aren’t captured on the illuminated walls of Facebook.

To be fair, to all those men out there who don’t know how to properly post, tag and take a photo,
an online presence isn’t an easy one to pull off, especially when you haven’t figured out your own
presence yet. Men just don’t think about these things the way women do.

A man looks only to see if she’s hot, not how many guys she’s friends with, how many selfies
she has and how many times she updates her status a day. For men, it’s just another photo, for women, it’s another layer.
It’s a layer we aren’t supposed to dissect, analyze or even see yet.

It’s a superficial, awkward and, many times, disturbing lie (or
truth) that has the power to ruin a relationship before it begins.
It’s an unnecessary seed of doubt, a dangerous game and a very harsh light that many men don’t
deserve to be cast beneath, or at least, not just yet.

So for all of you about to go on a first date, fifth date or just starting a relationship, let your relationship fall apart the old fashion way… by
sheer dislike after personal interaction.

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10 Ways You’re Making Dating More DifficultThan It Has To Be Read Post

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10 Ways You’re Making Dating More DifficultThan It Has To Be

Relationships are not meant to be as hard as we make them.
but some of us torture themselves with unneccesary things that make our relationships hell.
Here are some:
1. Keeping multiple romantic interests or people you have some kind of history with on the side out of fear that it won’t work with the main person you actually want to be with. Often times as a result, the relationship you want won’t come to fruition, specifically because you’ve got those safety net individuals on the side.
2. Researching the person you’re interested in on social media too much. Most are guilty of lurking because a crush with a public profile is one of the purest forms of temptation. The real problem arises when you learn an excessive amount and overthink or psych
yourself out. Should I brush up on my Drake because she was listening to Drake on Spotify?
Should I have mentioned his trip to Spain that I only know about from scanning deep into his Instagram? Should I be mad he/she hasn’t texted me back, but they just tweeted two minutes ago? These are the type of questions
our generation ponders on.
3. Trying to repair something that is obviously, blatantly, clearly broken. When you know there’s permanent, irreversible damage (e.g. your trust was broken in a way that it can’t possibly be earned back), you’ve got to accept that it has run its course. If you feel that the building is going to collapse, don’t waste precious time installing tile to pretty the place up before the inevitable catastrophe.
4. Handling everything passive aggressively. “I’m fine.” The silent treatment. Casually catty, indirect social media posts. All of those
methods, while tempting in the heat of the moment, are childish. They’ll drag the tiniest of issues out and often turn them into something colossal, whereas speaking your mind from the jump never fails to save time, and at least offers the person you’re upset
with an opportunity to understand and/or make it right.
5. Remaining in vague romantic situationships that you’d prefer to have identified. You want to be official? Initiate the “what are we”
discussion and regardless of the answer, you’ll be able to know what your next move needs to be.
6. Assuming you won’t be liked/loved for your ways and keeping interested individuals at a distance. Too often I hear of people thinking that their day-to-day tendencies aren’t romantically acceptable. For example, some
weekends you want to hit the bar and socialize, others you want to sit at home in soft pants with a ton of takeout food and do nothing. Guess what – there are plenty of
people the exact same way, and several others who would be willing to embrace a particular
routine because they’ll be with you.
7. Seeking revenge when someone you’re dating does you wrong. A person hurt you so you’ve got to get even, right? Naturally that
seems to be the thought process, but instead of actively spending a portion of your life trying to go tit-for-tat, you can make an effort
to understand their condition & the reasons behind the wrong doings, or immediately move on.
8. Waiting for contact instead of initiating it whenever you want. It’s simple – don’t torture yourself wishing and waiting. Send a text,
make a call, write a message – anything other than prolonged eye contact, telepathy attempts
or crossed fingers to actually put yourself out there. Whether you’re embraced, denied, ignored or (worst-case scenario) screencapped
& publicly laughed at/humiliated on social media, you won’t be stuck in “what-if” land, where the emotional cost of living is incredibly
high.
9. Acting indifferent towards whomever you’re interested in. Pretending not to care about
someone is more strenuous than putting yourself out there is terrifying.
10. Straight up fighting romance off. Being the solo, comfortable, independent person is great,
sure, but when you aggressively become shutdown because you’ve caught yourself feeling feelings and emoting emotions, that’s
not healthy. You can’t control love. You can break all of the light bulbs but that won’t stop the sun from rising. Also, now there are shards of glass everywhere, dummy.
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16 Signs That You Are A Sex Addict

Sex addiction is a real problem suffered quietly by those who know they’d be branded “freaks of nature” if people found out about their condition. This addiction can involve many different sexual behaviors that may be either strong urges to have sex, masturbate, watch porn, or even flirt!
You know you are a sex addict when your behavior on the above mentioned gets out of control such that it gets in your way of living a normal life and impacts negatively on you. When these feelings are accompanied by denial, confusion, hopelessness and shame then honey, you may just be a sex addict.

1. You often feel a compulsion to have sex and are always thinking about sex.

2. You can do anything to get “some” even if it means getting into prostitution or picking up prostitutes.

3. You obsess so much about sex such that you have a collection of sex toys and sex items and those are the most important belongings you possess.

4. You secretly know that your obsession with sex is a problem and that it is wrong!

5. You often feel the urge to partake in ‘abnormal’ sexual acts like “threesomes, foursomes” and you love to watch actual people having sex.

Read also: [20 Bad Girl Traits Every Guy Wants In His Girlfriend]

6. You have a mpango wa kando whose main role is to satisfy your sexual needs.

7. Sex plays a major role in the fights you have with your significant other

8. You keep your sex life very private. PS: It is normal to talk about sex in general and about your sex life to at least your best friend.

9. You feel compelled to have several sexual partners for the sake of variety and to fulfill your fantasies

10. You cheat your way out…not by only sleeping around but also by frequenting strip clubs, watching a lot of porn, going to x-rated movie theaters and having phone sex with strangers on a regular basis…such that it interferes with your relationships and work.

11. You see everybody as a potential sex partner and you don’t see anything wrong with partaking in sex with unsuitable people such as people who are underage.

12. You love sex so much you wouldn’t care to use protection with your many s*xual partners. When it comes to sex, your judgement is clouded.

Read also: [20 Signs You Are a High Maintenance Woman]

13. Sex has gotten you into trouble …you participate in phone sex during working hours, watching porn at work, looking at pornographic material instead of doing something that will be more helpful to you…

14. You have gotten into legal trouble because of sex more than once.

15. You are often left feeling a sense of shame and guilt after a sexual encounter which you initiated.

16. Your mind is just preoccupied by all things sex…constantly looking for sex filled stuff. While watching occasional porn could be considered “normal” a sex filled day…meaning watching porn the whole day is quite abnormal.

14 'Bad Boy' Traits That Women Just Can't Resist Read Post

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14 'Bad Boy' Traits That Women Just Can't Resist

They're famed as much for their work and talent as they are for their dark traits, then be it their womanising behaviour or for being
moody, aggresive and tempremental.

Yet there's something about such 'bad boys' that makes them insanely likeable to the opposite
sex.

The intersting thing about bad
boy is that they exude a kind of untamed masculinity, confidence and independence that women absolutely dig.

And just like a woman's feminine charms turn a man on, this overt
masculinity is almost like a natural aphrodisiac for the ladies.

1: A Bad Boy sets his own rules

The difference between a Bad Boy and a Nice Guy (like you) is that he has learned to survive in a tough world that constantly judges him and rejects him because he doesn't meet society's standard of a "good boy".

Women, like all other animals find those of the opposite sex who display great survival skills to be superior. Seeing a man wake up every morning, stand strong, stake his claim, take his chances, put his life on the line even in hostile environments is just sexy to
the dizzy limit. It shows that you have your life together and enjoy being alive.

2: A Bad Boy is nobody's punk

As much as you may treat a woman with respect ,a woman will most definately not find a wimp attractive.

One of the most important characteristics of any bad boy is their "don’t take crap” attitude. Bad boys display a of alpha male dominance.

They have a presence to screams tough guy. It’s a major turn on and a big reason girls like bad guys.
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3: A Bad Boy does not pretend to be a saint

We know you are the "good" guys. You don't have to try so hard to prove just how "good" you are. That puppy-like ("please, please, love me") trying so hard to please
is too good to a fault.

There is only so much "sweetness" that a woman can take before she throws up -- or blows up.

Woman want to see that you accept yourself as you are -- the good, bad and ugly. A guy who accepts himself as he is, is unlikely to critic the womans errors, stumbles, weaknesses, scars, and warts so harshly because he knows he is not perfect either.

4: A Bad Boy is never afraid to stand up for what he believes is right

a Nice Guy strongly believes in right and wrong, However women just want a guy Stand up for us them,and I mean all of the time even when they are in the wrong.

Every woman (even those who claim to be independent and self-reliant) wants to know that her man will Have her back someone tries to mess with her (even if it's monster-in-law).

5. He’s a protector.

This goes along with the whole
idea of bad boys not being wimps. If a bad boy will kick someone’s ass for disrespecting him, imagine
what he’ll do to preserve the honor of his lady?

a woman believes that if she can
catch a bad guy, he’ll be her knight in shining ar without all of the wimpy chick flick flare.

6. A Bad Boy is Exciting, with several twists and turns (and a few surprises)

Nice Guys are reliable and consistent. They are also so consistently predictable that women can almost read their (boring) minds. When one knows everything, there is nothing left to discover. No more surprises, no more wonder, no more passion.

Bad boys are exciting because you
never really know what they’re going to do. Peering into the unknown can be alluring enough to make woman chase after a bad guy.

7. Ego boost.

Imagine how great a woman would feel if she was the one to catch him? Nabbing a bad boy ain’t easy
They aren’t the settling down type. Every chick at some point wants a bad boy and wants to be the that catches him says a lot about the girl.

8: A Bad Boy believes in himself - and his sex appeal

Our society has somehow succeeded in divorcing "Nice Guys" from their sexuality: where good =boring, bad =sexy.

What we now have are men who want to be seen as "good men" but are afraid and even feel guilty and ashamed of their own sexual
nature,always seeing other guys as better looking, sexier and more attractive, but you... never good enough.

Bad Boys have none of that. They do not compare themselves with "Good Guys" or try to be who they are not. They love being the "bad" guys.

There is nothing sexier than a man who believes in himself and is not
afraid to unleash his unique individual sex appeal.
You are not going to live forever, why not go out with a huge smile on your face. Hmm?

#9. They are confident

Yes, bad boys wouldn't be able to pull off half their antics if they weren't brimming with confidence. The intersting this is that this
attitude of confidence overflows into everything that they do, be it the friends they make, the food they eat, the car or bike they drive, the way they drive, the way they order their drinks and even the way they talk to other women,
even though the girlfriend may be just a step behind.

And no matter what, such overt
confidence is a major major turn on for women.

#10. They are indifferent

They just don't give a damn. Rule books are not applicable to them and when it comes to getting things done, it's either their way of the highway.

You can't expect to change him, or set.him straight as they make their rules and believe that life is to be lived on the edge.
Take it or leave it, that's the attitude they flaunt and that's one reason why they fare so well with women.

According to them, if they aren't living on the wild side, they aren't living at all. Bad boys are always testing the boundaries and pushing the envelope when it comes to their life and women just
can't get enough of this attitude.

11. They are challenging.

women dig men who are a good challenge. As for the mysterious streak, contrary to popular belief
that women love the tried and tested, the guessing game actually given them a high like no other.

12. They are very masculine

This often goes hand-in-hand with being confident, indifferent, exciting, adventurous... etc.
Bad boys are often rugged and in-control.

That doesn't mean that they are controlling, they just know how to get what they want without breaking into a sweat. They speak
clearly and confidently, they look you in the eye, they are passionate about what they believe in... but most importantly, they still know how to treat a lady and make her feel good.

13. They give women a feeling of power

It's rightly said that the illusion of control is often more powerful than power itself. And when it comes to bad boys, they exude an air of power like no other, thus giving their women an air of strength and togetherness.

Also, this power high does eventually rub off, even if just
a bit, on their woman, too... and she laps it up!

14. They know how to talk to women

One of the main reasons why these macho men are such chick magnets is because they are so
confident, especially when it comes to chatting up females. They give out this 'don't give a damn' attitude and are knowledgeable of
almost every topic under the sun.

That's not all, they are not afraid of putting across their opinion or making their point. Most importantly, they know how to woo a woman and her feel good with words. Smooth-talkers, they can waltz their way in and out of situation is style and panache and consequently set.hearts racing.

20 Ways To Know You Are a High Maintenance Woman Read Post

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20 Ways To Know You Are a High Maintenance Woman

High maintenance girls often get a bad rep as being bitchy, spoiled and rude. And sometimes,
that’s true.
When your high-maintenance tendencies impact other people, like keeping them waiting while
you get ready, it’s gone too far. You should stop.
So long as you’re charming, you can be as high maintenance as you like, while not being universally hated.
Here’s how you know you are absolutely, 100 percent high maintenance.
1. You’re always in heels.
Heels so high, in fact, that you’re incapable of walking two blocks. The more shoes with red soles you own, the better.
Cabs have become your best friends.
Running for the bus isn’t an option, but that’s fine because, obviously, you’d never take the bus.
2. You have a permanent manicure.
This renders your hands basically useless for mundane tasks and menial labor.
It falls to your boyfriend, cleaner or roommate to do the washing up because you just got a fresh coat of Ballet Slippers applied today and no one’s messing with that.
3. You always demand that car doors be held open for you
In fact, sometimes you’re vaguely concerned you may forget how to open them yourself, it’s been so long. But, that’s what drivers are for. Plus, you tip like a boss and every cab driver loves you.
4. Likewise, actual doors.
There was that one time you stood stupidly for seven minutes outside a walkup building, because you couldn’t quite believe there was no
doorman.
see also: [New Research Show Good Looking People are Less Likely To Fall ill]
Luckily, you look great while doing nothing, and people are happy to hold your doors, purses and
whatever else you desire.
5. You struggle with financial independence.
You appreciate good food and fine wine, but when you appreciate these on a nightly basis, paying becomes a problem.
Happily, you always look good and provide vibrant conversation.
You are the proof that high maintenance does not mean dumb. There is no shortage of suitors.
6. You can be a little needy…
But that’s because you really, really love your friends and get stressed when you don’t hear
from them. Yes, you may rely on your friends to come up with the activities.
And, yes, you appreciate a speedy reply to your texts. But, you extend the same courtesy.
7. Your man gets nervous when you tell him you need to shop.
It’s not like you throw money away.
You only use it to look good and make things around you look good. But your man thinks you’re just
wasting money.
8. You have hair extensions.
Including brows and lashes, obviously. In a combination of attempting to be down with the
people and truly caring about your hairdresser’svboyfriend’s mother, you are on first-name terms with everyone in the salon.
All the better to get an emergency appointment when an eyelash is slightly out of place.
9. You have a teeny dog
…Whom you love more than life itself. You veer toward the Maltese/Yorkshire Terrier/any handbag dog variety, and treat her like a princess.
No tap for this bitch, the dog drinks
the same water as you — Fiji, room temperature.
10. You want everything to be perfect.
And if it’s not, you want your man to fix it for you. You don’t depend on your man for everything, but you do expect him to treat you like his queen.
11. You enjoy attention.
Walking into a room and not seeing heads turn isn’t something you have ever experienced or
think you’d particularly enjoy.
12. You No Clue public transport exists.
You’ve never seen the inside of either, and you’re fairly confident
you’re not missing out.
13. You have been called “self important.”
But you prefer to think of yourself as secure and confident. You know what you do and don’t bring
to the table, and fully embrace who you are.
see also:[A Guide To Dating Nairobi Women]
It just so happens that you are hotter, smarter
and a more interesting person than many girls you know. And aren’t afraid to vocalize this.
14. You notice accessories.
You notice when your boyfriend gets a new watch and when your mom gets a new purse. Your
friends love to shop with you — you’re nothing if not discerning.
15. You love all products,
primping and grooming.
Your bathroom looks like the inside of a Clarins store, the girls at the Bobbi Brown counter have met three members of your immediate family and you may as well buy stock in Kerastase.
Yes, you love to shop and yes, you have expensive taste. But you’re crazy generous and your friends love to get ready at your house.
16. You don’t understand the word “no.”
This applies to literally everything… be it getting a restaurant reservation, asking to leave work early or asking your parents for an expensive birthday present.
In your world, “no” is what people say before they eventually say “yes.”
17. You can’t step out of the house without your makeup.
You hate revealing any flaws, be it on your complexion or in any other aspect of your life. You like looking like a glam goddess no matter where you are.
18. You have more guys friends *admirers*.
You think you’re a fun girl. But most girls usually hate you or think you’re a snob. Guys love your company, but girls usually excuse themselves from you in the middle of a conversation. Not that you care!
19. You get embarrassed easily.
You feel terribly embarrassed when your man doesn’t behave or look presentable.
see also: [Why Men Want Sex in the Morning While Women Prefer at Night]
You even try to ignore his presence or avoid him. After all, his bad manners are an insult to your gorgeous presence!
20. You look like you've stepped out of a salon all the time.
You’re beautiful and extremely well dressed all the time. Any guy you walks past can’t help but notice you in awe.
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What Men Think During (And After) One-Night Stands Read Post

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What Men Think During (And After) One-Night Stands

The one-night stand is a great tradition in which two people have awkward sex that both will regret immediately. Most people have had one or two one-night stands, and they’re certainly a unique experience — almost a rite of passage.

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10 Weird Thoughts Girls Have After One Night Stands

Under the right circumstances one night stands can be an efficient way to have a seemingly uncomplicated good time. Casual sex can still come with some deeper feelings, which guys always assume girls are having.
But in a relaxed, euphoric state after, people’s minds go to the strangest places.

A Guide To Dating Nairobi Women Read Post

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A Guide To Dating Nairobi Women

1. Do not take her for walks next to shoe shops or shoe vendors

Nairobi chics are shoe junkies. Just look at them, they all have huge hand-bags. Besides using these bags as ‘baby stealing accessories’ (Yes, they do this in hospitals), Nairobi chics also

Why Men Want Sex in the Morning While Women Prefer at Night Read Post

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Why Men Want Sex in the Morning While Women Prefer at Night

Why is it that a man feels at his sexiest when he wakes up in the morning but a woman wants to go back to sleep?
And why, late at night, when a woman is in the mood for love, is her man just lying there, snoring? It all comes down to hormones. Here’s why our sex clocks don’t always tick in time.

5 Signs You Bore Her in Bed Read Post

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5 Signs You Bore Her in Bed

News flash: The passion will fade with time—no matter how eagerly she jumped in the sack when you first started dating. But less urgency doesn’t have to translate to all-out boredom in bed.

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7 Reasons You Should Date A Lefty

There's no denying it. lefties have had a tough run throughout history.
Strange prejudices, taboos, links to Satan, 25 negative mentions in the bible — it was even grounds for divorce in Japan in the 20th century.
In many languages, discrimination is even embedded into the word "left" — deriving from words like
"sinister" or being a synonym for awkward or ill-mannered.

8 Secrets To WhyGirls Always Win Every Argument Read Post

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8 Secrets To WhyGirls Always Win Every Argument

You know that resistance is futile, and yet time and time again, you enter into verbal battle with the foolish notion that this time, victory will be yours. The reality is, however, you are facing a nemesis who is armed with an arsenal of tactics that you wouldn’t even think to use.
Here’s why girls win every argument. Always:

21 Immature and Silly Dating Habits You Should Grow Out Of Immediately Read Post

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21 Immature and Silly Dating Habits You Should Grow Out Of Immediately

1. Text message date invites.
If you think back to your all-time favorite moments of interaction with friends, surely they won’t be text message conversations.

10 Signs You're Having An Emotional Affair Read Post

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10 Signs You're Having An Emotional Affair

You’re just friends. You love your patner. It’s not like there’s anything going on. It’s not physical. You just get each other -- in fact you help each other understand your own spouses better!
If you’ve found yourself saying any of these things to yourself or anyone else, especially if they’re frequently repeated, you may be smack dab in the middle of an emotional affair.

Flashy gadgets always distract from wholesome values

People associate price with quality

You can’t get down and dirty with a Bentley

1. He never fails to entertain you.

2. To be funny, a guy must be witty and creative: plus and plus!

3. He knows how to handle social situations.

4. He is naturally very observant.

5. He makes you a better person.

6. He gets along with your friends.

7. He doesn’t feed into drama.

8. He radiates confidence.

9. Pranksters are secretly sensitive.

10. Most importantly, he never fails to bring a smile to your face.

First-Time Sex

It’s-Been-A-While Sex

We-Met-Via-Social-Media Sex

No-One-Better-Find-Out Sex

I-Spent-Money-On-Our-First-[Few]-Date(s) Sex

Dream-Come-True Sex

No-Strings-Attached Sex

“OMFG, This Is Boring!” Sex

“You Want to Try What?!” Sex

This-is-Beyond Sex

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